What would your mindset be if you were to run a marathon? You know your limits, even if you have what it takes to come first would go in with a mindset of -
- Beating the other guys or
- Wanting to finish first?
Now it may seem that there is no difference between the two, but if you look closely you would find out that there is a lot of difference. The basic difference is that, when you go there to beat other people, that time you are limiting your preparation to some extent more than others i.e. if person A works out for 3 hours in a day, you might workout for 4 hours thinking you are working out more but instead you are restricting yourself, you are keeping a limit with respect to someone else, your point of reference is someone who is a different entity you cannot compare! Whereas if you work out for coming first regardless of what people are doing, you become limitless, you stop living in insecurity, in fear and what happens when you stop living in fear you break free have a renewed spirit of conquering your dreams.
In a given situation, if Lewis Hamilton races to be faster than Nico Rosburg, he might win a couple of times but if he loses he would dwindle under his own wrath of first of all losing and secondly not winning. On the other hand if he races to come first he would just have a target of achieving it, not worrying to that extent from Nico, because his sole objective is coming first, and even if he loses the only regret that would haunt him is he lost and whatever happens to Nico wont distract him that much. Such is my point, we have heard from childhood that “Every Child is Special | Not everyone’s all fingers are same | Everyone has a different script written for themselves by God”, then why not implement it in real life? Why has life today become a race where the reference point is not yourself but someone else? I understand everyone is mature enough to know this, many won’t agree with my thinking or my point of view and I truly respect that, again because everyone sees the world differently, people may have similar opinion but it is impossible for two people to have exactly same opinion.
As a student why is it necessary for us to compare ourselves with our peers? Why is that we take into consideration other people’s lifestyle and try to integrate it into our own? Steve Jobs was only one classy man, he had a vision, he was one of a kind. He didn’t care about lot of things that weren’t related to him or he just focused on what he wanted to achieve and didn’t see any limits to achieve it!
His main objective was his vision, how he wanted to achieve his idea, he didn’t allow anything stand in his way, he went lengths and distance to achieve it! Again the point is what you want, not what others are doing and you have to follow, this is for those people who get depressed if they don’t score well. It is healthy being sad about your score if it’s less than your-self in-comparison to the past, but being sad because you scored less and your mates scored more is just allowing someone to stay rent free in your apartment (brain)! Person A, got 9.65 pointer and Person B, got 7.96 pointer. If B only cares to beat A then what is the use? B should aim for full 10 pointer instead of getting more than A, only then would B progress in reality. Everyone understands this but honestly ask yourself how many of you reading this article actually follow it? Keeping a tab on how much your competitors have studied is good, making it the sole reference is wrong. Hiding from people study material, if not helping others, then why do you take pride in advising someone “You know help someone with your knowledge it would help you revise!”, when you don’t intend to follow it. It has just become a myth!
Your life is not very easy, the reality is harsh, the life is tough it would give you pain in your ass! One other reality is our mindset, people who boast about being great without any real deal are faux, but people who boast about being great after they have achieved it are Achievers, Goal winners, Rule Setters, Out of the Box, misfits from others because there is a difference between them and reality! You have heard wise people keep their mouth shut, now look it from different point of view- even the people who don’t know stuff are also silent, so how should one differentiate a wise man from a fool? If you don’t speak up, always act dumb how is that the other person would realize your true potentials.
My ideologies are different than maybe all of you reading this draft, I would appreciate you guys sharing your views on the topic hopefully I was clear enough in what I as a student come across and feel sometimes! Comment down below with your point of view and I may not make a great difference in your life, but if I am able to make even 0.000001% of change in how you view things my this article would be successful.